If you are NOT like the person mentioned above and you want to come hang out with someone who isn’t a Supermom either, then you’ve come to the right place.
Thursday, June 18, 2009
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I want to make a correction to this story. In my haste to get my idea out I overlooked a very important detail - Work Outside of Home Moms (WOHM). I meant this group of women when I said WAHM. Not that work at home moms have it any easier. I apologize for my oversight and hope no one was offended or felt left out.
When I was laid off, I was scared about losing the income, but I was looking forward to spending all this time with my son. I have always tried to work and bring in an income. I also liked where I worked and what I did. The people I worked with were great and were like an extended family. I sure do miss them. Now, if I could only remember their names.
That being said however, I wanted to be the one to raise my son, not pay someone else to do it. I wanted to be the one to make the mistakes in parenting and so far, I’m doing a good job of it. The mistakes that is.
After he was born, I wanted to quit my job and stay home with him, but like a lot of other mothers my income was needed and I had to go back to work. That first day back was pure torture. I cried all the way to work and periodically throughout the day. People said it would get easier, but it never did. I stopped crying for the most part with a few occasional crying spells in the car, but it never did get any easier and it was always so hard leaving him in the morning. So when I found myself unemployed the fear of the loss of income was overshadowed by my joy of being with my son.
I remember thinking that in addition to focusing more on him I thought I would have all this time to get all these things done that I had to put off due to lack of time because I was “working”. Wow! Was I naïve or what? Stupid is more like it.
I foolishly thought I could get and keep the house spotless from top to bottom and I could decorate it like I have been wanting to including painting. Martha Stewart would have nothing on me except the show and the jail time. She could have that. I also thought I would have all this time to find ways of making extra money while still staying home like I dreamed about. I was thinking blogging, selling Shaklee, giving horseback riding lessons, etc. Maybe even write that book I’ve been wanting to write.
I can honestly say I have achieved none of that. I did develop this blog, but it’s not yet where I want it to be. I want to be able to bring more useful articles to my readers and of course expand my reader base. But like my life, it can be chaotic and fragmented. I am also working on developing a horseback riding program for children and adults, but it’s slow in getting off of the ground mainly due to lack of time in ironing out the details with others. I still sell Shaklee products, but I struggle with getting the word out. Sounds like a typical failure from where I stand. But hey I am trying.
So why has my dream of life perfection gone up in smoke? Duh! I forgot about the full time job of being a toddler wrangler. You try doing it without a rope!
I forgot how much work being your child’s caregiver can be. When I was working a job outside of home I was paying someone else to chase after him. Now I am the chief cook and bottle washer literally. Being that I nursed I could get rid of the bottles though and I could stop pumping. Yea!!! Now that nursing is done we have moved on to potty training which is slow going by the way. I look forward to the day of no more diapers! Still, I am losing time faster than gravity is pulling down my now deflated boobs.
I still have not accomplished all my goals though. Good thing I’m not a politician. Wait, politicians never accomplish all their campaign promises either. Maybe I have a future in politics. Nah, no time.
I am so critical of myself. I am constantly apologizing to my husband and any other person willing to listen for my short comings. I’m not sure if I’m looking for forgiveness or sympathy. Mostly I just get laughter. When I mention my failed aspirations to mothers who have been where I am now, they just laugh and laugh hard by the way. They agree with how much work raising a child, even one child can be. Ironically enough the same amount of laughter and understanding comes from both Work At Home Moms (wahm) and Stay At Home Moms (sahm).
I am not writing this article on who works more – sahm or wahm. Both work hard and I have been both. I must admit though I had a distorted view of a sahm when I was working. I just forgot that sahm were working during the same hours I was working at my job. They were the babysitter. Their time was spent being the caregiver I was paying someone else to do. They were doing the changing, educating, kissing away the boo boos, feeding and cleaning up after the feeding which by the way how much can a growing toddler eat? Forget about saving for college I need a 529 plan for groceries. And the mess under the high chair? Oh my gosh, good thing I have a never needs recharging, cordless vacuum called a dog. Anyway, what I am saying is that position is a full time job in addition to the cooking, cleaning, laundry, handling the finances, etc that we all have to do.
I am always trying to find ways to save money, too which can be a part time job in itself. I view taking time to learn new strategies on how to save like hard core couponing and sale shopping which is comparable to earning the money you save. And that type of shopping takes extra time. It’s a job in itself.
I am fortunate to have an understanding husband who knows how hard it can be. I am aware so many women do not have that kind of support by their spouses. To those spouses I say, shame on you! Could you do it any better? If so, then help out more. If not, then shut up! To those of you without support there are many web sites with others who have a sympathetic ear and words of encouragement along with some good advice.
Anyway, my husband works very hard at his job and here at home, but he knows my job never ends. I also have a niece, who I admire. She is a sahm with three children who are about two years apart. She is a great mom and now that I am a mom of one, I admire and respect her all that much more.
Don’t compare yourself to others and what they are accomplishing. That’s not fair to you or them and you may not know the whole story. I am hardest on myself and my husband lovingly reminds me that the only one criticizing me is me. Do you do the same? If so, stop it! And remind me to stop it too, please.
I still couldn’t tell you where all the time goes though even with a schedule and to do lists to follow. I used to be a very organized and efficient person at work. You wouldn’t know it though by looking at me now. All that organization and efficiency seems to have been flushed down the toilet along with the poo poo that I’m trying to teach my toddler where it should go instead of in the diaper. You try and get much done with a toddler who seems only interested in you when you are trying to get something done like writing this article. All this time he has been pulling on my arm and trying to climb into my lap, whining and whimpering the whole time. Excuse me for a moment while I stop and give a hug and a kiss.
OK, I’m back. I got him interested in his blocks. Let’s hope it lasts for a few minutes so I can finish this.
When I do get a few precious moments to myself, I oddly feel a little guilty for stealing some time for myself. I also find myself missing him. What’s up with that?! I can’t help it, I just do. Guess I’m hopeless when it comes to that. Pathetic is more like it. At least that’s what one person at the horse barn says I am. But then again she doesn’t have children, so what does she know about our self inflicted guilt trips?
Maybe someday I’ll stumble upon that blackhole where all that time went to that got away from me, but until then I’ll just try and do my best with the time I have. After all, whether you are a wahm or a sahm (or dad) that’s all you can do, your best.
So keep up the good work all you moms and dads and don’t be so hard on yourself, leave that job to others.
I have to go and rescue the dog from flailing toys being catapulted his way. Supermom to the rescue! Dang, I wish I could fly!
Monday, June 15, 2009
I have had houseplants since I can’t remember when. Very, very few manage to live past a year. I’m not sure why that is unless it has something to do with neglect. I never intended to be a serial houseplant murderer, I just came about it naturally.
I get houseplants usually as gifts, though I have been known to get a wild hair and buy a few healthy specimens. I think to myself while standing in line at the counter, “I’ll be good to this one and I’ll start being more conscientious about watering and feeding”. For the most part I am until life sidetracks me. Without voices screaming at me for water, I get caught up in all the busyness my life has and I just forget, plain and simple. I feel a sense of shame come over me as look around the room at the few survivors I have.
I actually do have a few long term survivors who have hung on throughout the years with me. I have two that have lasted for over 20 years! One is a ficus tree. Now ficus trees can grow to over several feet tall and I have seen a few big ones, but mine for the past 23 years is only about two feet tall. My friend calls it my bonsai ficus. It is really cool looking. It has been in the same pot. You know the kind….the plastic style from the ‘80’s. Root bound probably is an understatement. Yet it’s healthy. I believe stressing it out now and then has dwarfed it. It’s cute and is my favorite. I also have a philodendron that has been with me almost as long. It’s not overly long due to stressing, but is healthy. It also is in a retro style pot from the ‘80’s.
The plants I do have are currently healthy and may be due to my husband waters in between the times I do. They are so fortunate to have been “adopted” by him. I hope he doesn’t do too much though, because I don’t want my bonsai ficus tree to get too big.
I bought one of those water globes that have the long spike that helps keep your plants watered. I just don’t know why they make out of glass instead of plastic because when you try and push them into a pot that has a root bound plant like my huge spider plant, it breaks the tip off. They could also make them look a little less cheesy. I never could find a globe that looked as cool looking like the one on the box or on the commercials. The only ones I can find look as bad as if I made it. But they do help keep your little green friends watered.
Some people have suggested I get a cactus since I water infrequently. I tried that. It did well till I got more conscientious about taking care of my plants and ended up watering it too much. Ironic isn’t it? I need to turn over a new leaf (pun intended) and take a more organized approach to care of my other living friends. I will I promise. Though you may see a post later on about the dangers of watering your plants too much.
Friday, June 12, 2009
Written By Regina Brett, 90 years old, of The Plain Dealer, Cleveland ,
"To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me. It
is the most-requested column I've ever written."
My odometer rolled over to 90 in August, so here is the column once more:
1. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.
2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
4. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and
parents will. Stay in touch.
5. Pay off your credit cards every month.
6. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
7. Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone.
8. It's OK to get angry with God. He can take it.
9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.
10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
11. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.
12. It's OK to let your children see you cry.
13. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey
is all about.
14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.
15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don't worry; God
16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
17. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
18. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.
19. It's never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up
to you and no one else.
20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for
21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don't
save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.
23. Be eccentric now. Don't wait for old age to wear purple.
24. The most important sex organ is the brain.
25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.
26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words 'In five years, will
27. Always choose life.
28. Forgive everyone for everything.
29. What other people think of you is none of your business.
30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.
31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
32. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
33. Believe in miracles.
34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or
35. Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
36. Growing old beats the alternative -- dying young.
37. Your children get only one childhood.
38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd
grab ours back.
41. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
42. The best is yet to come.
43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
45. Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift."
Its estimated 93% won't share this. If you are one of the 7% who will,
share this with the title '7%'.
I'm in the 7%.
Friends are the family that we choose for ourselves.
Happy Friday Everyone!
Think about all the men in your life and how they have helped you.
This month we would like to highlight men’s health by highlighting two special products designed for men’s health. They do so much for others it’s time to help them back. See below on how these products can help you take care of the men in your life (and help yourself, too) by making sure they take care of themselves.
For Father’s Day give the gift of good health.
OmegaGuard and one bottle of Saw Palmetto Complex.
NATURE’S ANSWER TO A MAN’S SPECIAL HEALTH NEEDS
Men face many health challenges. Such challenges can be high blood cholesterol and high blood pressure, which in turn can also lead to heart disease and stroke. In fact, heart disease is the number one cause of death of American men, while stroke is the third leading cause of death. Men must also contend with possible prostate enlargement that can affect urinary flow.
Fortunately, there are steps that men can take to help maintain good health.
Eating a diet low in fat and cholesterol, exercising regularly, maintaining a
healthy weight and dietary supplementation are active steps men can take to
promote overall health.
SHAKLEE MEN’S HEALTH PACK
The Shaklee Men’s Health Pack utilizes a unique blend of natural ingredients to:
_ Promote heart health*
_ Improve arterial health*
_ Support overall prostate health*
_ Promote healthy urinary flow.*
WHO MIGHT BENEFIT FROM SHAKLEE MEN’S HEALTH PACK?
_ Want to maintain heart health*
_ Are concerned about retaining normal cholesterol and blood pressure*
_ Who consume a diet high in fat
_ Are concerned with prostate health.*
WHAT’S IN MEN’S HEALTH PACK?
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OmegaGuard (Take 3 capsules one or two times daily with meals.)
- Rich in omega-3 fatty acids to optimize heart health*
- Clinically tested to effectively raise blood levels of EPA and DHA, two essential omega-3 fatty acids recommended by the America Heart Association
- Formulated from the oil of cold-water fish—the best source for omega-3 fatty acids
- Consumption of omega-3 fatty acids, like those found in cold-water fish and Essential Omega-3 Complex, may reduce the risk of coronary heart disease†
Omega-3 Fatty Acids— eicosapentaenoic acid (EPA) and docosahexaenoic acid (DHA) – Polyunsaturated fats, specifically the omega-3s, were first recognized as important to human health in the 1970s. Scientists discovered that the Inuit Eskimos of Greenland had a diet that was very high in fat, yet they suffered far fewer chronic diseases such as coronary heart disease. Further study revealed that their diet of whale, seal, and salmon provided benefits that reduce the risk of such disease.
Saw Palmetto Complex (Take 1 softgel twice daily)
- Created from the finest standardized saw palmetto berry extract
- Contains 85% to 95% fatty acids and sterols
- Has pumpkin seed oil, enriched sources of beta-sitosterol, and otherphytosterols, ingredients found to support prostate health*
- Helps maintain proper urinary flow*
Saw Palmetto Berry Extract – For centuries, the aborigines of Florida consumed saw palmetto fruit. It eventually became a staple food in the diets of native Americans in the Southeastern states. The Indian medicine men also used saw palmetto to treat the prostate and as a general tonic to nourish the body.
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Order today for Father’s Day!
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† The Food and Drug Administration evaluated the data and determined that although there is scientific evidence to support the claim, the evidence is not conclusive.
* THESE STATEMENTS HAVE NOT BEEN EVALUATED BY THE FOOD AND DRUG ADMINISTRATION.THIS PRODUCT IS NOT INTENDED TO DIAGNOSE,TREAT, CURE, OR PREVENT ANY DISEASE.
Thursday, June 11, 2009
I already made a post on this subject discussing the recent injury of a local police officer. Click Here for that story.
Why did the police feel the risk was necessary to chase over a stolen motorcycle? I know if I owned that motorcycle I would of course want it recovered and the suspects caught, but not at the expense of lives!! I have had it with these stories! How can we stop high speed police pursuits? There has to be another way? With today’s technology can’t we use some other forms of tracking and stopping them? If “Q” in the James Bond movies from the ‘60’s can come up with some cool ways of incapacitating the bad guys surely with today’s technology we can come up with something that is not only cost effective, but gets the results everyone wants – the capture of the suspects with a low risk to the public.
Here in our area we have access to a police helicopter and stop sticks that can cause the air in the tires to lower moderately as opposed to a blowout thereby reducing the risk of a fatal wreck. But it’s not enough. With red light cameras and other surveillance devices being more in use around town can’t law enforcement add these to their arsenals? Can unmarked cars and Amber Alert messages be used to enlist the help of the public? How about small cash rewards be offered to the public for help finding the vehicle and suspects by advertising the license plate, make and model and description of the suspects? Having so many eyes out looking for these guys would definitely help in locating them. What about shooting out a small tracking device to attach to the car? I heard there are devices available that can send out a signal that causes the car’s electrical systems to shut down. Some may say the police departments can’t afford this. Can they afford the cost of the lawsuits? Can they afford the stigma of they don’t care about the safety of the public? Can they afford the cost of innocent lives?
These are just a few ideas off of the top of my head. I would like to pursue in voicing my opinion on this, but at this time I’m not sure how. I have been doing some research on statistics this morning, but so far I couldn’t find anything newer than a study done in 1998! The National Highway Traffic Safety Administration (NHTSA) reported that 314 people were killed during pursuits in 1998. Of this total, 2 were police officers and 198 were individuals being chased. The remaining 114 were either occupants of unrelated vehicles or pedestrians. The total was higher in each of the 4 previous years. And there is no mandatory reporting system so who knows what the true numbers are. I wonder if the numbers are lower or higher now.
It is so sad. My heart breaks for those families of the children.
Do you agree we need to stop high speed police chases? What do you think?
Thursday, June 4, 2009
Monday, June 1, 2009
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