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Thursday, January 6, 2011

Stop Asking Him That Question!

Ladies, please stop asking the man in your life the question, “Does this make me look fat?”

That is a terrible thing to do to the guy who loves you by putting him in a spot like that.

Ever notice that men never ask that question?

Think about it. You are giving him a no win situation to work out of, which is very unfair.

If he answers too quickly, then he doesn’t care.

If he takes too long to answer and actually is taking the time to assess your size, he’s being insensitive.

If he says, “No honey, you look great.” Then he’s lying, even if it is to protect your feelings.

This just confirms his feeling that he can never win.

I knew of a guy who told the truth to his wife when she asked him the same question. She asked him, “Does this dress make me look fat?” as she turned around in front of him. He said, “No. It’s your fat that makes you look fat.”

Though his answer was harsh and I’m sure hurt her feelings, he told the truth to a question in which there is no right answer to give. Did she deserve the harshness, no. Did she deserve a more sensitive answer worded a little differently, yes. But I’m sure whatever other answer he could have gave her, it would have not been the truth and she wouldn’t have believed him anyway.

By the way, he was no bean pole himself, so I’m hoping she had a good comeback for him like, “You’re right honey, but at least it doesn’t make me look as fat as your pants do you!” and wore the dress anyway.

So give your man a break. Stop asking him that very unfair question unless you are prepared to hear the harsh truth or a sweet lie.

~Losing weight & getting healthy this year? Then say hello to Cinch!

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